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Acceptance Doesn't Happen Once

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Reflections from a retreat talk on being called, chosen, and sent as daughters of the Holy Spirit. I used to think acceptance was something that happened once. That eventually you reached a place where you made peace with the hard thing and then moved forward. I’m a wife and a mom of six. And five of my children have some level of disability, autism or Down syndrome. One of my daughters has both. My life has been full and beautiful, but also very different than what I imagined. And it didn’t all happen at once. In 2003, I was already well into navigating life with my twin boys’ autism diagnosis, while also raising their older brother. We were just figuring things out as we went and letting go of what I thought life would look like. I really thought I had found my footing and was handling things pretty well. But I’ve come to see that acceptance doesn’t happen once. It comes in layers.  And over the years, there have been other layers too: Infertility… adoption… other unexpected hear...
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When I was a little girl, I was never far from my mom’s side. I was the epitome of a Mama’s girl particularly with being an extremely shy and introverted child. For those that know her, my mom didn’t have a shy or introverted bone in her body.  New experiences or changes in my life always brought me great anxiety. My mom had a way about her though, that made those anxiety provoking moments seem less terrifying. She’d make them appear less daunting by giving me options that I could wrap my head around. She’d say— “T ry it once”, “Give it a week” or even said once, “Go one year and then we’ll talk again” (this was when I wasn’t sure I wanted to go off to college). I remember her taking my complete stranger of a roommate, when I was a freshman at Purdue, to lunch and shopping for matching bedding to help ease my roommate and I into a very new and strange living situation.  She was my rock growing up.  Becoming a mom myself in 1994, I actually went and lived with my parents f...
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